5 things to do after the 'Yes' moment

Bath Abbey, Bling & Bubbles
The Moment After My 'Yes' Moment: The bling and the bubbles atop Bath Abbey

Arriving into the office on Monday morning to news of one my colleague's engagement in Lisbon over the weekend caused for lots of excitement amongst the new-wives and brides-to-be. Following a spat of engagements last year when 5 of us became engaged in as many months, a little ensemble of us have regular 'Wedding Chat Lunches' to share tips and status reports for each of our upcoming nuptials. Honestly, a sure fire way to get me out of the office – I could talk for days about it! So here is what I have taken as my most notable post-proposal pieces of advice:


1. Take the 'moment after' pictures 
Having been caught completely by surprise with the proposal, I have my future husband to thank for being decently dressed and made-up owing to the story he had spun me about going out for cocktails. This boded well for the mass of photos that were to follow of us atop Bath Abbey at sunset by our lovely tour guide Philly. We even used one of these to form the basis of our design for the Save the Date. But most precious are the pictures showing the true emotion of the moment – in my case, red-eyed and teary! I even got Ryan to go back down on one knee and hold the ring – one for prosperity. I've heard other proposal stories when the bride was just home from the gym, trainers'n'all and another over breakfast in pyjamas – private photos of these are the best. But don't forget that all important social media pic for all the world to see (cue wardrobe & styling for hours).

2. Call your parents 
If yours are anything like mine, they were pacing the floor and staring at the phone like a watched kettle that wasn’t boiling. Ryan had told them the plan and rough timings that we would be in the bell tower for the 7o'clock chimes and then up to the roof shortly after for the big down-on-one-knee moment. We certainly took our time to enjoy the bottle of Champagne, the sunset and me querying "Is this a joke? Is this for real?". By the time we got to the bottom of the Abbey and sat on a bench to make the phone-calls it was about 8.45pm by which time everyone had got rather concerned that Ryan had taken an alternative route down!! I would also recommend holding your phone approx 4-6 inches away from your ear when you announce "We're engaged!!" as the screams were somewhat deafening. Hearing how happy they are for you brought on more tears and it really is like a massive huggable pink haze falls upon everything around you! We decided after over an hour on the phone to all the parents and siblings to hang up the phone and actually enjoy our first evening as an engaged couple – it was so special being just the two of us and being our secret (excluding the nearest and dearest) for the night.

3. If the ring fits...

Some very organised grooms out there do the investigative work to get the ring sized pre-proposal – very efficient indeed – though the chances are some slight alterations will be needed. In our case, my vintage engagement ring was hula-hooping my finger so after the initial evening with half a business card wedged underneath to keep it from spinning (or worse), we headed straight to a jewellers in Bath (thanks Google) to get it resized down for me. Three hours later and I had my gorgeous ring back on my finger to ooh and ahh at (I still do it a year on!).

4. ...insure your ring!

Something so precious in both worth and sentiment needs to be protected so make sure you have your ring insured pronto. Some Home Insurance companies allow you to note this on your policy as a listed item in your personal possession, and an additional premium may be required if the value is over £2,000. You will also be required to give a description. Naturally, I've taken a whole host of pictures from all angles in case I ever have to get it recreated. If like me you have a vintage ring, book an appointment at Goldsmiths to get your ring independently valued.

5. Cheers
Never a better excuse that this happy one to pop open the corks! I have been collecting these since Ryan and I started dating, noting the date and who it was shared with – a lovely memento (and lamp feature). In fact we almost had bubble over-load in the imminent 24 hours after the proposal with the following series of events: Champagne on top of the Abbey, Champagne cocktails in the bar Ryan had booked after, Champagne on ice waiting for our return to the hotel room (always wanted to drink bubbles in a bubble bath!), Champagne breakfast the next day, pub-time Prosecco whilst we waited for the ring and then... we arrived at our dinner reservation on the Saturday night and found my parents had a bottle waiting on ice for us!!

6. Establish timelines 

Don't freak out. And you should say that to your fiancé too, but ultimately if you haven't already spoken about how long you envision the engagement to be and, more specifically, what time of year you'd like to get married, it's good to do so. I found that post-massage, in a swimming pool of a spa was the perfect time to raise the subject. Just as well I did as it seems the short(ish) engagement I had voiced before had fallen on deaf ears and Mr Armstrong thought he had a breezy 2 years to plan the wedding (the closer we get the more I'm wishing we had taken longer than 15 months!). But as of less than 48 hours later, we had decided it was to be a summer wedding (his request) in London (mutually agreed) preferably on a good sounding date (my request).
© Mrs A to B

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